wielder

The nature of the stick is irrelevant, it's the wielder that really matters.

A gun is specifically designed to kill things, but the wielder of the gun decides whether it will be used for good or for evil.

The problem is always the wielder, never the tool, so if you account for that you will always be prepared for any type of weapon...

It is crucial because true power, absolute oppression, cannot exist if its wielder is generally considered suspect.

If Mythbusters is correct then the knife wielder always wins if they are within 20 feet.

The policemen are the ones who approach the knife wielder, not the other way around!

They're not hapless policemen standing idly by, suddenly assaulted by a knife wielder who surprise-jumps out of a doorway within 20 feet.

Is the screwdriver fundamentally flawed because it allows the wielder to mess up?

But, such things are much less glamorous and scary than a plastic derringer that's about as dangerous to the wielder as anyone else.

Weaponness is not in the thing; it's in the intent of the wielder.

There's also guns like the Lorcin -- it's made from pot metal and is as dangerous to the wielder as it is to the target.

Or when the power of money corrupts the wielder.

I also think that the "wielder" is part of the problem.

I put "Vim Wielder / Cat Herder" on my business card.

However, I don't understand your point about "wielder vs tool".

I'm guessing you're on about the "tool is only as good or evil as the wielder." Trying to take this back out of the meta, our society needs to figure out how to stop hurting each other.